Can you be yourself with others?

How easy is being yourself for you?

Can you be yourself with some people and not with others?

Why is that?

What are you afraid of?

What do you expect if you are yourself?

Are there memories that fuel this?

It is important to be yourself with people.

Waiting to show your true self is a waste of time.

It wastes your time and the other person.

And it will attract the wrong kind of people.

Be yourself.

How much do you do?

How many projects do you have?

Why do you do them?

How enjoyable are they?

How large is their potential?

Which are your top 3?

Which ones could you stop doing?

Where can you reduce your time and effort?

Often, we do too much.

Too many projects, too many activities, too many habits.

And most of them will keep us away form what truly matters to us.

Do less to achieve more.

How good are you at timing?

Timing your investments?

Timing your decisions?

Timing your activities?

Timing your travels?

Timing your work?

Patience and consistency coupled with timing are key.

Patience and consistency will put you in the position to time well.

There is no guarantee your timing is right.

So keep trying.

Which kind of people do you want in your life?

Why do you wish for them?

Are you like this?

If not, why not?

Do you think you will attract them?

If you were them, would you be interested in yourself?

We tend to attract people similar to us.

If you want certain people in your life, become it first.

That is the surest way to find what you deserve and want.

What is your relationship with money?

How do you view money?

How important is it to you?

What are your spending habits?

How does your relationship with it differ to others?

What are the consequences of your relationship with money?

We all have a distinct relationship with money.

It forms due to our upbringing and our life experiences.

Getting clear on the relationship we have and the one we want to have is paramount.

Take some time and get clarity around this.

Do you have agreements in your relationships?

For which things do you use agreements?

Do you write them down?

Do you sign them?

Do you agree on deadlines?

Do you agree on clear responsibilities?

Do you agree on penalties?

If you do not agree and plan things, life will plan for you.

Write these agreements down and act on them.

Who fails to plan, plans to fail, also in relationships.

Do you set yourself yearly goals?

Do you tend to reach them?

How well do you execute them?

Do you make a plan for them?

Are your goals internally or externally dependent?

Externally dependent goals are bad.

Your goals should be internally dependent, thus in your control.

You need a plan to reach them and establish processes.

The processes should be your goals.

Like writing a daily thought.

Where is your internal clutter?

What even is internal clutter?

Do you have unclear relationships?

With money? With people? With yourself?

Do you have any unresolved problems?

Do you ruminate about them?

Is your identity not clear to you?

Internal clutter is holding you back.

Start tidying up your mind.

Write things down. Plan things. Have the difficult conversations.

Make the decisions!

What does Christmas mean to you?

Does your behaviour reflect this?

What is important to you during Christmas?

How can you ensure these things?

We ruin Christmas for ourselves if we are not clear.

Clear on what we want and how to get it.

Clear on how to behave.

The decisions you make and actions you take are 100% on you.

Go get that Christmas you wish for.

Do you disturb others?

During meetings?

At the coffee shop?

When they are working?

In a team game?

Why do you do it?

Are there others that disturb you?

How do you like being disturbed?

Do you do it on purpose?

Where do we draw the line? When is our behaviour an uncalled for nuisance and when are others overly sensitive?

Find your line and find it well.

Do your emotions stand in the way?

In the way of finding agreements?

In the way of seeing solutions?

In the way of finding common ground?

In the way of listening?

In the way of thinking clearly?

Sometimes we cannot see the obvious solution, due to emotionality.

Take out the emotions and if you can't listen to advisors.

Emotions and negotiations are not friends.

Do you want something, yet you do not?

Are the upsides appealing, but the downsides scare you?

Do you have two goals and need to chose one?

We all have intrapersonal conflict, conflict with ourselves.

It is normal to have, so don't break a sweat if you do.

Sometimes there are innovative solutions and sometimes not.

Ruminating about things won't help.

Take a leap of faith or get some outside perspectives.

Negotiating with yourself is the ultimate negotiation.

Do you respect other's decisions?

Do others respect your decisions?

Do you overexplain your reasoning?

Do you demand explanations?

Do you try to talk others out of their decisions?

Do you let others talk you out of your decisions?

Often we need to respect a decision.

Often we need to stay firm on our decision.

It is your right to decide for yourself,

Just as it is another's right to decide for themselves.

Do you manipulate others?

Do others manipulate you?

Why do you do it?

Are you ashamed of it?

Are your goals malicious?

Do others profit of your manipulation?

Especially the ones you manipulate?

Everyone manipulates others at some point.

Anytime you try to get someone to do what you want, you do.

Often it has benefits for both parties, sometimes it does not.

Do you time your decisions?

When are you best at making decisions?

When are you worst at making decisions?

Which time of the year?

Which time of the week?

Which time of the day?

We perform differently depending on the timing.

Many decisions we can time for maximum effect.

Some come as they come.

But still you have some control over your timing.

Do you really want to know...

The answers to your questions?

When you ask how someone is feeling?

When you ask for forecasts?

When you ask for advice?

When you ask for feedback?

Do not ask, if you do not want to know.

You waste your own time and that of the others.

If you want to know, be ready for the answer.

For better or for worse.

Which things are you pushing, that you want to do right now?

What is taking up your time instead?

Why are you doing these other things?

Why? Why? Why?

Do what is important to you, right now.

Do it before it might be too late.

What is the worst that can happen if you do?

The consequences often are just minor.

Are you struggling with a decision?

Is it a hard decision for you?

Is it a critical decision?

Is there a way back from the decision?

Is there someone for whom it might be an easy decision?

Why don't you ask them for advice?

Often a difficult decision for us is easy for someone else.

Someone with more experience.

Find them, and ask for help.

What do you want?

What do you believe?

Do you believe in the things you want?

Or do you want things you don't believe in?

Or do you believe in things you do not want?

If you want something, make sure you believe in it.

This will unconsciously shape how you behave, decide and act.

It will bring you closer to what you want.

For planning purposes, it is good to be pessimistic.

Otherwise, stay optimistic and do your best to get it.

Believe that you deserve the outcome that you wish for.

Do you hope for the day...

where you have fought all your battles?

The day you can let go and be free and enjoy?

The battles never end!

The more you can handle, the larger they become.

Learn to stand up and do the difficult things.

And get ready for the next round.

For it will come.