What makes you really angry?

Why do you get angry?

Who can make you very angry?

Why do they make you angry?

The things we get angry about, we care about.

The people that make us angry, we care about.

If a friend or family member lies to you,

it is worse than if it is a stranger.

How do you perceive yourself?

Do you oversell your achievements?

Do you undersell your achievements?

Being overly boastful will bite you in the future.

Being overly humble will bite you now.

Being confident in your ability is hard work.

Achievements are facts, so communicate them.

Leave the ratings to the others.

What is the value of your work?

What do you charge for it?

What do people pay for it?

What do people pay your competitor?

Is that worth as much?

Price and value are two very different things.

Worthless things can be expensive.

Valuable things can be cheap.

Be valuable and be expensive.

Trust in yourself.

How well do you keep your structure?

How well do you keep your boundaries?

Does it all disintegrate sometimes?

When and why does it disintegrate?

We all have some sort of structure in our life.

We all experience chaotic and hard times.

We all lose ourselves in these times.

It is normal, be kind to yourself and get back on track.

The same applies to others.

Short-term gain or long-term gain?

What do you prioritize?

What are the consequences of either?

Usually, we need to choose one or the other.

Short-term gain leads to long-term loss.

And vice versa.

Sometimes one is the right option,

Sometimes the other.

Be sure to know what your goal is.

How positive are your interactions?

What is the ratio between positive and negative?

Is this different depending on the relationship?

Should it be different?

To be perceived as neutral you need 2:1 in a work setting.

Thriving work relationships have a 3:1 ratio.

To be perceived as neutral in love, you need 3:1.

Thriving relationships have a 6:1 ratio.

The Losado ratios of life.

What is a theory?

Does life follow a theory?

Do theories explain what is happening?

How are theories derived?

Trial and error are the best teachers.

Trial and error drive innovation.

Theories try to explain what trial and error discover.

Don't get stuck on theories.

Go and do, experience and learn.

How many different projects do you have?

Do you alternate between them?

How enjoyable are they?

How exhausting are they?

Do you alternate between them?

Variety is important.

Mix up your projects.

Alternate between enjoyable and exhausting.

There is only so much you can push through.

Do you spend time alone?

Do you enjoy time alone?

What do you do when you are alone?

How do you feel when you are alone?

How do you feel after a period of solitude?

We spend so much time around people.

If not physically then digitally.

Regular solitude is crucial to resetting.

Do you have mood swings?

Are you in a bad mood and don't know why?

Good news leave you cold?

Or can you be in a good mood for no reason?

When bad news hits you brush them off?

Do you beat yourself up over these swings?

It is normal to have these swings, they are part of life.

Plan your days accordingly.

Have compassion with yourself.

Have compassion for others and their swings.

What is your BATNA?

Do you know it when you negotiate?

Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement.

Do you have the information you need?

Never go into a negotiation without knowing it.

Your BATNA gives you the minimum for a potential agreement.

With it, you know when to walk away.

Are you more proactive or passive?

Which do you prefer?

Which do you think is better?

Sometimes it is better to be proactive.

Sometimes it is better to be passive.

Proactivity can send you down a rabbit hole.

Passivity can leave you behind or in a put position.

When is which of the two the right option?

How do you go about carrying it out?

Where is the opportunity in this crisis?

Do you focus on the risks, damage, or losses?

Or do you focus on where an opportunity could lie?

Never waste a good crisis.

There is always an opportunity in them.

Some may have immediate effects.

Some may have delayed effects.

Try to identify them and make use of them.

However, not every opportunity is worth taking.

Did you ever rush something?

Why?

Because it seemed urgent?

Because it seemed important?

Rushing produces more problems than solutions.

If you believe you need to act now,

you have at least a few minutes.

If you believe you have only an hour,

you have at least another day.

Decide things mindfully, do not rush.

Do you practice poverty?

What would it be like to live poor?

Have you tried imagining?

Have you tried living like it?

Live a poor life as a form of retreat.

Do it with the intent to learn and prepare.

Money can be taken from you.

Your attitude is all yours.

Do you have expactations of others?

Do you have expectations of yourself?

Are these alike?

Should expectations be universal?

Or dependant on the person?

Expecting the same form everyone is a trap.

No one is alike - people differ.

Set your expectations depending on the person.

Universal expectations breed resentment.

What is the most difficult task you had to do?

What is the most difficult task you might have to do?

Would you have said the same ten years ago?

We underestimate and overestimate tasks all the time.

We are surprised that the most difficult is not on our radar.

We are surprised how something is easy, we thought of as impossible.

Whatever comes your way, give it your best shot.

Do you regret your bad decisions?

How do you evaluate them?

How do you know another path was better?

From which point in time are you evaluating?

What was the experience worth?

How has it changed your life's trajectory?

What would be missing without it?

We tend to beat ourselves up because of past decisions.

We overthink and overcriticise ourselves.

We do not consciously sabotage ourselves.

We make decisions as best as we can at the time.

After all, only at your life's end can you truly evaluate it.

Which opportunities do you take advantage of?

How do you evaluate upside vs downside?

Do you even evaluate them?

Ideally, we want to engage in asymmetric opportunities.

Opportunities with a high upside and a low downside.

Many of us, however, go for the opposite.

How can you create more asymmetry for you?

You only live once...

What does this mean for you?

Fear of missing out...

How does this affect you?

Can you yolo responsibly?

Yolo without responsibility is based on FOMO.

FOMO is seldom a good reason for a decision.