Are you serious all the time?

Or can you have some fun?

Can you be humorous?

Also in serious situations?

Everyone deserves to have fun.

More so in times of stress.

Go out with friends.

Do not resent your missfortunes.

Have a laugh about them.

Do you act immediately upon events?

Or do you take time to decide?

Can you take time?

Do you want to take the time?

You always have more time than you think.

Some decisions need to be made fast.

Others can take time.

Often, you can watch things unfold before choosing a direction.

Act at the appropriate time, not too fast and not too slow.

Are you standing in your own way?

You refuse to change what you need to change?

You persist on others changing instead?

Often we can only change ourselves.

We have no control over others.

Often they will continue their behaviour.

You can only adapt how you react to it.

Keep your cool and not engage in their shenanigans.

Do you betray yourself?

Do you say yes too often?

Do you say no too little?

Do you say yes or no to the wrong things?

Do you break promises with yourself?

How does this all feel?

Betraying yourself is terribly painful.

It breeds depression and resentment.

Start small, get accountability partners and change your environment.

What role are you in?

Are you the victim?

Are you the perpetrator?

Are you the rescuer?

Maybe a bit of everything?

How are you perceived by others vs yourself?

By engaging in these roles, you cannot be authentic.

You need to find balance in order to be yourself.

Take a deep breath and find that balance.

You expected something...

And it happens.

But you are still surprised!

Why is that?

Did you still hope for something else?

Die you still fear something else?

Did you work through your feelings?

Even an expected event can still hit us very hard.

Go easy on yourself and take the time to process it.

Do you fear trying things out?

Do you fear going after your dream?

Maybe you might fail?

Either way, you will have an answer.

You might need to tweak something.

You might need to learn more.

You might need to try harder.

You might just not have had a good idea.

Without trying, you will never know.

Are your mistakes forgiven?

If not, then why?

If yes, then why?

How do you handle things?

How do you deal with mistakes?

Do you take ownership?

Do you act with integrity?

A mistake doesn't burn relationships.

It's how you behave and act that does.

Your project partner fails to deliver...

what do you do?

Do you get angry?

Do you feel disrespected?

Do you make demands?

Do you get aggressive towards the other party?

Life is a roller coaster, for everyone.

Sometimes things don't work out as intended.

Speak about it and find solutions.

But don't let yourself be taken advantage of.

Who are you talking to?

Are you talking to the right person?

Do they have the authority to make a decision?

Do they know what they are talking about?

Do they know the right people?

What is their agenda?

Often we waste time and energy with the wrong person.

Just knocking on the next door can move you forward.

Make sure you talk to the right person.

Do you produce drama?

Do you tend to be complicated?

Why do you do it?

Is it a need for attention?

Are you trying to fill a void?

You don't have your emotions under control?

Your drama wastes other people's time and energy.

Do you like your time and energy to be wasted by others?

Are you prepared for death?

Have you written your final will?

Have you put everything in order for the inheritors?

Have you made lists of your accounts, assets and contracts?

Why not? Are you too young? Are you scared?

Death can come at any minute.

So be ready to leave in an orderly fashion.

Prepare now and enjoy the ride without worries.

#familybusiness #lastwill #dailythoughts

Do you pay it forward?

Have people in your life helped you?

Have they gone out of their way to do so?

How much of your success is built on this?

Do you do the same?

What goes around, comes around.

Help those you want to help, who you feel can need it and deserve it.

And then enjoy the show.

Do you know, what your mother did during her pregnancy with you?

How was her mood?

Was her life stressful?

Did any traumatic events take place?

How about your grandmother?

The mental history of the two generations before you is critical.

We can inherit psychological traits that are developed.

It did not start with you.

Do the research and work on realizing what is yours and what is not.

Do you drag meetings into length?

Why?

Do you have a plan for the meetings?

Do you prepare?

Do you have a goal?

Do you finish once the objectives have been reached?

Not every meeting is an opportunity to connect.

Many are there to get work done efficiently.

Be aware of the objectives and choose accordingly.

Do you worry about things you do not know?

What illness might befall you?

What could go wrong in the future?

How much longer will your marriage hold?

Have you noticed, that these turn into self-fulfilling prophesies?

Paradoxical intention is real.

The more you worry about negative things, the more likely you will make them happen.

Be in the present moment. Enjoy the moment.

How do you end important conversations?

What could be important?

What was the conversation about?

What are necessary actions?

Who should be doing what?

And by when should what be done?

What can get in the way?

What should not be done?

Answer these questions together and agree on the way forward.

Summarize the outcome in a protocol and crack on.

Otherwise, the conversation might have been pointless.

How do you function?

Are you aware of it?

How do you learn best?

How do you get work done best?

How do you relax best?

What environment do you enjoy?

What makes you thrive?

We all have our particularities.

Self-awareness is key to understanding those of others.

Understanding yourself and others is a secret sauce.

What makes you blow up?

Which phrases in a conversation do that?

Which behaviour of others do that?

Anything else?

So stop doing it to others!

If you hate it, others probably will too.

If you dislike it, why do it yourself?

Blaming, negating, exaggerating and generalising for example.

Better conversations safe time, and energy while getting better results.

Negotiations with yourself are the hardest!

Hold on, with myself?

Do you always know exactly what you want?

Are the next actions you need to take clear to you?

Or are you split between decisions?

Are you interests and goals known to you?

Do you take the time to think about them first?

How do you feel?

This is called an intrapersonal conflict.

The better you are in dealing with it, the better your decisions will be.