What things do you do for the good of a group?

What things do you do purely for your own good?

How do you know which is more important?

The group or you?

Most of us do something that we despise, for the good of a group.

It is a constant weighing.

Try to find things you enjoy and that are good for a group.

You do not have to force anything upon yourself.

There is a place for individualims within collectivism.

How seriously do you take things?

What is your reaction to your misfortunes?

How do you react to your friends' misfortunes?

Laughing is wholesome.

Laughing heals.

Particularly in hard times, banter and laughter save the day.

After a good laugh, problems are easier to solve.

You relax and start to see the opportunities.

Do you wear multiple hats in life?

Are you an entrepreneur?

Are you a parent?

Are you a sibling?

What is more important to you?

Where do you spend the most time?

Now answer again what is more important to you.

Find the balance between money and relationships.

If you do not, there will be consequences.

Is there a skill you need to hone?

A skill that you despise?

A skill that you are bad at?

A skill that your work requires?

A skill that would serve you well?

Does learning them frustrate you?

Some skills require repetition to become good.

Repetition is frustrating.

Repetition is hard.

There is no shortcut, so repeat till you don't need to any longer.

How accurately do you judge how others feel?

Do you relate others' behavior to yourself?

How often do you do this?

How often is a colleague at fault when you feel down?

How likely is this different for other people?

We are terrible at judging how others feel.

We tend to relate their mood to ourselves.

When people act weirdly they struggle.

Stop putting yourself at the center.

Are you unhappy with your situation?

Why not change it if you are?

Are you worried it could get worse?

In the face of this, it might not seem so bad after all?

Humans don't like uncertainty.

They tend to prefer certain misery.

Certainty breeds mediocrity.

What do you have to lose?

Only your life, if you chose certain misery.

What lies do you tell yourself?

Why do you tell them?

How can you stop?

We humans are very good at lying to ourselves.

We pretend we need to do things.

We pretend that all is well the way it is.

Pick one lie and be honest to yourself.

That is a great start.

Want to start something new?

Do you have the capacity for it?

If not, what do you do?

Is there something you can let go of?

Often, to start something new, something old has to go.

Your attention is precious and finite.

Your time is precious and finite.

Allocate it accordingly.

How do you decide if to do something alone or not?

Why do something together?

Why do something alone?

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. - African Proverb

Together you can often achieve bigger things more easily.

Alone you are faster and can capitalise on opportunities ruthlessly.

Together you have the support of peers.

Alone you have more autonomy.

What is the right way for you right now?

Who is in your inner circle?

Who do you spend the most time with?

Do you like these people?

Do your values align?

Do your goals align?

Do you get energized by them?

Your time and attention matter.

Who you give these to matters.

Choose carefully who you let into your life.

The wrong people can wreak havoc.

This is a great idea!

Do you fall in love with your ideas?

Do others love them too?

Are you told they suck?

By whom?

Do they have the authority to do so?

How confident are you in yourself?

Some of the best ideas in history were unpopular.

Some of the smartest people in history were deemed crazy.

Some great ideas are repeated again and again.

The only way to know is to try.

How does your environment affect you?

How do you affect your environment?

Would changing environment help you?

How would changing yourself help you?

Which one is more important?

Without question, our surroundings affect us.

Without question, we can get dealt a horrible hand.

Without question, it is your decision how you react.

Sculpt your environment and your character.

Don't blame one or the other.

Are you doing the right things?

With the right people?

In the right way?

Look at things that failed.

Is the answer "no" to one of them?

When it is "no" to all they were catastrophic for sure.

Look at what you do now.

Then act accordingly.

How would I feel?

What could I have done?

What should I have done?

How could it be?

And so on...

These questions can help for learning.

And that is all.

Do not rumminate on it.

Learn and carry on, do better next time.

Do you ever suffer hindsight bias?

After the fact, everything seems obvious?

The right decision was clear?

Do you ever confront others in hindsight?

Hindsight is great to try and learn.

Don't put too much importance on it though.

What information did you have at the time?

What situation were you in?

How experienced were you?

In hindsight, life is a walk in the park...

How much do you trust influencers?

Are there any whose information you trust?

How rigorous is their practice?

What is their agenda?

Has their agenda changed over time?

Have they changed over time?

Freely shared information is tricky.

Nothing is truly for free.

And no one is without an agenda or goal.

Discern accordingly!

Why is this happening?

Why to you?

Why not someone else?

Why can it not stop?

Things happen.

They happen to you and others.

Sometimes more and sometimes less.

Depending on your mood it might feel worse than it is.

Take a moment. Calm yourself. Solve the issue.

Have you tried improving something lately?

How did it go?

Does the improvement deliver the results?

Are you expecting immediate results?

Or are the expected results delayed?

When do you know if the improvement really is one?

We can only plan actions that we think are improvements,

and then take the action and observe.

At some point, you will know if it works or not.

Do not hesitate to change direction if needed.

Is someone you know behaving strangely?

How well do you know them?

How strange is the behaviour?

Why could they behave strangely?

What might have happened in their life?

People can change for many reasons.

Events...

Medication...

Illness...

Loss...

Stress...

The list is long.

Try to understand what is going on.

Try to have compassion, while respecting your own boundaries.

What is fair?

What is equal?

What is just?

Does it depend on the situation?

Or is it unilaterally so?

What may be equal, may not be fair.

What may be fair, may not be just.

What may be just, may not be equal.