How do people passing by you live?

Whose life is more exciting, stressful, or complex?

Which stories are you part of?

Who is the main character in them?

Every person is living out their own story.

In some stories we are important.

In many, we do not even exist.

In some, you are a random dude in the background.

To sonder is to realize all of this.

How directly do you communicate?

Do you tell people what you mean?

Or do you communicate implicitly?

How often does it come to misunderstandings?

Most people have a directness deficit.

Out of fear of being impolite,

we often communicate in complicated ways.

In the end, this only leads to misunderstandings.

You can be direct and polite.

How often do other people disappoint you?

How often does their behavior offend you?

How many are they repeat offenders?

Which behavior repeat?

Every person has a unique situation.

Every person has their character.

Every person has their own challenges.

Accept other people and their situation.

Don‘t be surprised by how they are,

If you decide to continue to engage with them.

How good are you at judging people online?

How good are you at presenting yourself accurately?

How often do you misinterpret written communication?

Can you read between the lines?

Often we create an image of someone.

This is based on our perception.

And boy, can we be wrong.

Before meeting face to face,

Prepare yourself to be surprised.

How often do you take a bet?

Are you sure it is not more often?

How often do you make an educated guess?

How often do you bet on yourself?

And how often do you bet on others?

Life is more about taking bets than we like to think.

Every investment is a bet.

Probabilities and stakes may be different.

In the end it is all a game of betting and odds.

Stack the odds in your favor and bet on yourself.

How much do you follow global events?

Which ones do you follow?

Why do you follow them?

Do they deliver critical information for you?

We are often mesmerized by the news.

Yet much of it is meaningless for us.

It makes no difference for us.

We cannot do or want to do anything about it.

Make sure you follow only what is critical for you.

And use it for decision-making.

What do you care about?

What do you worry about?

Is there a link between the two?

Can you care, yet not worry?

When we care about something,

we can get obsessed about it.

So much that we will worry.

Then worry becomes paralyzing.

And we stress out.

Why all of this? Can you not simply care?

What are you currently struggling with?

Why are you struggling with it?

How have you tried to approach it?

With the tried and tested?

Each of us has specific strengths and weaknesses.

Often, we will encounter things we struggle with.

The tried and tested method might not be a fit.

You can bang your head against the challenge.

Or you created your way of doing it.

Leverage your strengths to create it.

How hard is it to reach your goals?

How often do you get just below it?

What is the value of being realistic?

Why don't you strive for more?

Most of us undershoot our goals.

Our instinct tells us to lower our goals,

yet we keep undershooting.

Raise the bar for yourself.

Ever so higher and the undershooting won't matter.

Idealism is the road to realism.

How often does life give you what you wish for?

How often do you receive challenges instead?

How often do you have the opportunity for your wish?

We often wish for things to be different.

We often wish for us to be different.

Yet life does not just give us these.

Life gives us the opportunity to change things.

Life gives us the opportunity to be different.

Which projects did you never start?

Did you give up on them before trying?

Why did you not start them?

How often did you think, that it was too late?

There is already someone doing it.

I am already too old to start this.

I have a family to look after.

Once we die, it is truly too late.

Before then, it is never too late.

You made a choice, thus it is your responsibility...

Does making a choice make you responsible?

After all, you had a choice, but did you really?

We may be put in a position to make a choice.

A choice between horrible and less horrible.

We choose the less horrible, with all its consequences.

But does this ultimately make us responsible?

Have you had any of these situations?

How do you feel about them?

Choosing is not always equal to responsibility.

How often do you help without being asked?

How does this work out for you?

What do you except from it?

Do you expect appreciation?

Do you expect help in return?

How do you feel when they are not met?

Unasked help should be unconditional.

After all, you were not asked.

Expecting certain behaviors from the other is a fallacy.

If you decide to help, do it for the sake of it.

How does reaching a goal feel?

Is it like you imagined?

How often are you disappointed?

What intentions did you have setting out?

We often have grand fantasies about a goal.

We often get disappointed once we get there.

Our imagination led us by the nose.

Be careful what you wish for.

And be careful what you chase.

How well do you know your relationship dynamics?

With your partner?

With your employees?

With your family?

How do you behave around certain things?

Why do these dynamics unfold?

We often have inefficient behavior together.

Often this has a simple reason.

And often there is a simple solution.

Take the time together to look into it.

How much do you spend on your health?

For which treatments?

Why did you choose them?

What else could you do?

Is it cost and time-effective?

After we have neglected our health,

we try to fix it by employing money.

Most things we spend said money on are ineffective.

The most effective things are simple:

Sleep, relax, eat well, do sport, and laugh with friends.

Simple right?

How do others talk about you?

Why do they talk this way?

What are the consequences for you?

How does it make you feel?

Some people will bad mouth you.

Some people will praise you.

And for most, you will know why.

And it will still raise emotions in you.

Some will hurt, some will comfort.

Why make things hard for yourself?

Why do what you struggle with?

Why focus on your weaknesses?

Why not do what is easy for you?

Why not focus on your strengths?

Why not stop the things you hate?

What things do you carry around?

Which of them is positive and which is negative?

And how much of it do you give to others?

Can you give, what you do not have?

Hate, love, compassion, judgment etc.

We cannot give to others what we do not have.

This applies to every trait and baggage we carry.

If you judge yourself, can you be empathetic?

If you criticize yourself, can you be compassionate?

Which trauma can you pass on, if you have none?

When can you best concentrate?

What type of tasks?

What place is optimal for you?

Why, why, and why?

Not all tasks are equal,

nor all places,

and neither all times.

Do what you are good at,

where you are good at,

and when you are good at it.